masculine women and girly men...

LabRat over at Atomic Nerds put one up today about about Masculinity, that is certainly worth a read. It's something I run into all the time...

See, I don't fit most peoples' definitions of "masculine". And it's not just the kilt (although that seems to throw too many people for a loop): I don't like sports, I'm (at best) mechanically declined, not a fan of beer, and tend to not fall in line with most "guy things". So most guys have no CLUE how to react to me...

Of course, get me on metaphysics, weapons, gaming, sci fi... I'm good to go. But around here at least, most of the things that I find interesting are alien to most guys. Add in the kilt, and I might as well have two heads.

Holly at the Pervocracy linked in, and she makes a valid point: if you don't show the "whole package" of gender identifiers, society vapor locks on how to deal with you. Guy in a kilt, who would rather read than watch a football game? Must be queer! Woman that likes to go work on engines? Not feminine enough!

It's funny, as I see it EVERYWHERE, even places that you'd think would avoid it. Ask me about some of the assumptions in the pagan community sometime...

How do we fix this? What can we do to actually get people to judge others as PEOPLE, instead of trying to pidgeonhole folks based on their sexual plumbing?

Other than, as I do, simply being ourselves and ignoring those who have a problem with it...